"That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh." Genesis 2:24 (NIV)
This past weekend, the hubby and I got invited to a Marriage Matters retreat at a local church. One of his friends from work had accidentally bought an extra couple’s registration and his wife suggested that he invite us. This was truly God’s hand at work because my husband and I had talked about going to a marriage retreat to further pursue that oneness in God that we yearned for. However, our home church is definitely on the larger scale when it comes to churches so I was a bit cynical about going to a smaller church. You see, growing up, I went to smaller churches and was really disappointed in the amount of judgement, gossip, and drama that I witnessed. This disappointment was a main factor in my straying from God and my faith during my late teens/early 20’s. When we arrived to the marriage retreat, we were met with a really great sense of belonging but I was still skeptical.”What better topic to meet with judgement, gossip and drama than marriage?”, I thought. Surely, God had a funny reality check waiting for me… The marriage retreat consisted of four parts split into two nights. The marriage retreat followed Paster Craig Groeschel’s series “The Vow”. First off, Pastor Craig is such a blessed preacher! He keeps it real in a relatable, judgement-free manner. Plus the way he publicly loves his wife is #GOALS! They are a great example of a God-centered marriage. I totally recommend that you check out their devotionals on the YouVersion app, as well as their church: Life.Church. “The Vow” consists of four promises that are the foundation for all marriages to be successful, whether faith-based or not. Below are the four promises highlighted this past weekend and the takeaways of both my husband and myself.
1. The Vow of Priority - "I promise God will be my first priority and my spouse will be second. Protect the priorities."
2. The Vow of Pursuit - "I promise to always pursue my two. When you think something good, say it. When you think something special, do it. When you want something different, be it."
3. The Vow of Partnership - "I promise our marriage will be about we and not me. A contract is based on mutual distrust. A covenant is based on mutual commitment. A covenant partnership is summarized with godly leadership and mutual submission."
4. The Vow of Purity - "Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy. I promise to confide in you and not hide from you."
After experiencing such an amazing weekend, filled with clarity and great examples of what we strive to be, the hubby and I actually started to pray specifically on what God’s calling was for our marriage and where He wanted us to be. The moving hand of God in our lives has been so apparent lately and we are so excited to pursue Him fervently. He’s got some amazing things that He’s revealed to us and we can’t wait to be able to implement them. Stay tuned for more updates friends!
If you'd like to be blessed by Pastor Craig's series "The Vow", check it out HERE.